For many marriages is something to endure rather than enjoy. Instead of wedlock you have deadlock. Instead of sweet dreams it is a nightmare. Instead of marriage being the nearest thing to heaven it is the nearest thing to hell. Who wants a love that you can’t feel? We need a romance makeover.

1 – The absence of romantic love (vs. 4)

The church at Ephesus had fallen out of love with Christ. When you fall out of love it happens on the inside first before it appears outwardly. It is possible to fake love on the outside. It could be World War III at home! The church was working hard but yet they had lost their love for Jesus Christ.

We need God’s love to help us have romantic love. A marriage without romantic love is dull. Do you love your partner because you have to or want to? Here are five “love busters”.

• Anger. The Bible has a lot to say about anger. See Ephesians 4:31, Col 3:8, James 1:19-20.
• Annoying habits. They are not necessarily bad or sinful things. They are little things that annoy your partner. You know they annoy your partner but you do it to provoke them.
• Selfishness. This is the number one reason for divorce. All sin can be traced to selfishness. You need to get your mind off yourself. We are to crucify our self. It is not “I”. In marriage it is a partnership.
• Dishonesty. When you lie to one another you only postpone the truth coming out. A lie has a short life.
• Insensitivity. You used to be sensitive but then you lost it. You need to be sensitive to needs if romance is going to blossom. Most women do this naturally. It is more difficult for most men.

2. The resurgence of romantic love (vs. 5)

How do you get the romantic love when you have lost it? There are three steps.

• Remember. You need to remember what it was like when you did have that romance.
• Repent. Is there anything you need to apologise or forgive or ask God about?
• Do the first works. Go back and do what you used to do. It is as simple as that! You used to have romantic love. What is it that you used to do that you do not do anymore? Return to the courtship. Where is the evidence that you are in love? Start dating again. Concentrate on giving romantic love rather than getting romantic love. Encourage each other with words. Shower each other with gifts. Love gives. Spend time together without any distractions at least once a month. Plan to get away for a weekend or have a holiday. Write notes to each other. Ask God to help you. He created it in the first place. With God’s help you can get romance back in your marriage.

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