God intends for husbands and wives to enjoy each other and pass these values onto your kids. It is the wives who desire intimacy more than the men. Marriage comes to its fullness when we achieve total togetherness.

1 – Thoughtfulness

Live together in the same house with good sense according to knowledge. A woman is psychologically and emotionally different than a man. The creator made her that way. She is equal to you but different. The woman is to be the responder. The man is to be the initiator, the leader. Women tend to think emotionally. Men tend to think logically. This does not mean that the man is always right. A woman will care for the people within the problem. Men tend to see their work as an extension of themselves. The woman sees the home as an extension of herself. Women want jobs done in the house.

2 – Thankfulness

You have to get across to your wife that she is precious to you. You must give her this honour. Let your children hear you praise your wife. Do not degrade your wife in front of others. Write her notes, bring flowers, etc. Happy is the man who knows how to give thanksgiving.

3 – Trustfulness

She needs to know that you trust her. You must be transparent. You must be truthful. You must bring major decisions before her. The main mark of this is that you pray with her. This is a demonstration of intimacy. You have an equal inheritance with God. Too many men do not know how to be intimate.

4 – Tenderness (vs. 7)

Are woman weaker than men? They control most of the world’s wealth and live longer. It means that you wife is of fragile fabric. She needs to be treated carefully.

The classic Churchill and Lady Aster confrontation when she was overheard speaking to Churchill, to say when he was being obnoxious……..” and you Sir are terribly drunk and should be ashamed of yourself”. To which he replied, “and you Madam are terribly ugly, but in the morning, I shall be sober”. Not the way to treat a lady!

Categories: 1 Peter