We are all in a hurry. Life is hectic. Marriage does not have to be perfect. They work because we work at them. We need to be proactive. Solomon’s wife sets out to make things different. There are some hints that we can use in our marriage.

1. Creatively propose your weekend (7:10-13)

An invitation goes out to Solomon.

• A loving affirmation (7:10) – She is more excited about the security of the relationship. The sexual part of the relationship is not the most important aspect. Getting married can be dangerous for a woman. It used be that one in three women died in childbirth. She loses her own name and takes her husband’s name. She makes a home and usually does most of the domestic work. A man can make a woman feel special and unique. He has chosen her from all the other women.
• A luring invitation (7:11-13) – The woman is taking the initiative for time with her husband. She is calling for them to just go! She is not a city girl. She was from the country. She wants to go there to spend a weekend with her husband. She is wise to suggest they get up early and mix pleasure with business. He had to go look at the vineyards any way. She is promising a romantic weekend! It is hard for Solomon to say “No” to this request.

2. Lovingly prepare for your weekend (8:1-2)

• Talk about your expectations for the weekend (8:1) – It was permitted to show displays of affection in public in the culture of that time. She would be despised. If Solomon was her brother she could show affection at any time.
• Talk about your excitement for the weekend (8:2) – She is proposing a very exciting and erotic weekend together. It is not a weekend of sightseeing. She has other things in mind.

3. Romantically plan your weekend (8:3-4)

The love between Solomon and his wife did not go stale because they kept it fresh and interesting. At the start of this passage they have fallen out. Now at the end of the passage they have made up and rekindled their love and marriage. It is the wife who took the time to stop the routine and make time for each other. We need to give that same attention to our marriage as we do to our children and job. You need some space for your life and your wife. Don’t let everything else take up your free time until you have no space left.

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