Some people wonder why the book The Song of Solomon is in the Bible. This book is among the poetic books in the Bible and need to be understood in that context. There are pictures in scripture of Jesus Christ. The Song of Solomon is not intended to give pictures of Jesus Christ. This book is a literal historical account of romantic love between a man and a woman.

Solomon was a wise man but not a man of self-control. See 1 King 11:3 – He had 700 wives and 300 concubines. In this book Solomon pursues another woman for his harem only to discover that she has love for another man. Solomon had never been ever to find this sort of love in a woman. He released this woman at the end of the book. Romantic love needs to be exclusively focused upon one person.

1. It takes time

See Song of Solomon 1:3. We need to draw the one that we love away. It is important to spend time together with each other. You need to know where to find each other. Getting married is easy but staying married is harder. It is essential to spend time together. See 1 Peter 3:7. If you can’t spend at least 15 minutes a day then your marriage is in danger. There is no such thing as quality time without quantity. It takes time.

2. It takes attention

See Song of Solomon 2:8-14. This is a poem about enthusiasm for attention. They can’t wait to be together! There is a desire to see her face and hear her voice. Do you want to show attention then do the following: –

• Get alone together. This is what happened in these verses.
• Silence all other noises. Turn off the radio, music or TV.
• Sit close. You have to be face to face.
• Listen. You have to talk things over and not keep silent.
• Repeat back for confirmation. It is not to be one-way traffic.

3. It takes exclusive ownership

See Song of Solomon 2:16 & 6:3. I am my beloveds and he is mine. If you are not prepared to give up your independence then you should not get married. Spare someone a lifetime of hurt. Don’t get married. You have to give yourself to another person. You can’t have a married couple living two separate lives. You have to help each other and give to each other. Don’t settle for less than this attention before you get married.

4. It takes pursuit

See Song of Solomon 3:1-4. Once the relationship is established it is very important for the woman to also pursue the man. The man should not have to do all the chasing. The man can also stop pursuing his wife once he gets married. We take for granted what we have. This will break down marriage. The pursuit for affection from your partner should continue. Otherwise extra marital pursuits may take place.

5. It takes supreme value

See Song of Solomon 4:9-10. This loving man values his woman. This man is fired up on this woman. He is happy to touch her or have some part of her. He is not out drinking with the boys! He values her so highly and he is expressing it. See Song of Solomon 2:2. All other woman appear like weeds to him. She is a beautiful flower to him. He raises her above other women. She values her man. See Song of Solomon 5:10. We must return to the strengths of the person we fell in love with. Stop nit-picking! Don’t concentrate on weaknesses.

6. It means forever

See Song of Solomon 7:10 & 8:8. It is less painful to die then have our love broken. We are to be married forever. It should be until death do we part. There is to be no exit until death or Jesus returns. It is not marriage till we do want. God hates divorce. He wants marriage to work. It can if we romantic love is exclusive.

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