God’s plan is for sexual satisfaction in one partner. It was God who created man and woman in the first place. We are not to settle for anything less. Romantic love is like a vineyard. See Song of Solomon 2:15. It is the little things that ruin the romantic love. Romantic love is ablaze when it has Eros. The word “sex” has become soiled today. “Eros” is the Greek word for the physical expression of human love. This is used in the context of intimacy within the bounds of marriage. We need Eros in our marriage. It is the fuel on the fire for romantic love.

1. Eros is from God

See Genesis 1:27-31. Everything that God made was very good. God does not do average. This included Eros. God made every part of us and it was very good. The man and the woman are focused upon in Genesis 2:18-25. It was one man and one woman joined together for life. They were not naked and not ashamed. There was no sin and things were perfect. The sin comes in Genesis 3.

2. Eros has become defiled

See Genesis 3. There is one law to be kept but they break it after be tempted by Satan. See Genesis 3:7. They knew they were naked and sought to cover themselves and hid. They lived in fear of God and themselves. God knew where Adam was – did Adam know where he was? Eros was defiled by the Fall in the Garden of Eden. It has become increasingly defiles since. Society has become a cess pool and is becoming worse. How do you think this makes God feel? It was very good at first but now it has become perverted to the point that it makes God and decent people sick. Things have degraded over the years as standards have lowered and things which were perverse years ago are now paraded in the streets as a right.

Adult book stores outnumber McDonalds in USA by 3 to 1. There is a rise of promiscuity. Almost 75% of students are non-virgins according to surveys. There is a large increase of sexual abuse in the home. Homosexuality has become accepted as something normal.

3. Eros has to be redeemed

The day is coming when God will redeem his people and all things. See Ephesians 1:7 & 4:30. God intends us to be redeemed people today. See Titus 2:14. We can reject the world’s message of Eros and make it the way God intended it to be. Here are four things we can do to redeem Eros:-

• By saving it for marriage – See Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:4 and 8:4. She wants consummation but only when it is right. There is a right time and place for Eros. It is righteous and holy then. Eros is a powerful giant. Don’t wake it up until it can be pleased. God wants us to wait for marriage. See Galatians 5:19 & Ephesians 5:3. God does not want us to hurt ourselves. It is a loving command. If you choose to sin then you choose to suffer. These relationships usually fail to last. You shouldn’t build the physical relationship first and then the emotional relationship. Relationships that start with Eros can be difficult to break. Some women have given themselves in Eros to a worthless man and then feel ashamed to break the relationship.
• By giving Eros time – See Song of Solomon 1:12 & 2:3-6. It is important to give Eros time. It is not when you are exhausted or time is short. See 1 Corinthians 7:2. The danger is that there is too little Eros, not too much.
• By releasing Eros passion – See Song of Solomon 4:8-5:8 and 8:4. Passion stirs us to our depths. We can have it in our lives. We need to say about our passion. We need to meet in different places and break routine. Eros is focused on the other person. Eros makes us really want the person and not the pleasure that they bring.
• By choosing Eros pursuit – See Song of Solomon 5:2. These two people are after each other. That is the essence of Eros.

4. Eros is good

If God speaks in this book then He speaks in Song of Solomon 5:1. God endorses romantic love. We need to cherish Eros love and keep it ablaze. It is good because God says it is good.

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