It is good to understand marriage before you get into it. God wants a happy union, not a civil war. See Ecclesiastes 9:9 & Proverbs 5:18. We are to enjoy marriage. This is what God intended. Marriage is to be like one long romantic cruise! We have changed it from a cruise ship into a battle ship! The statistics don’t look so good for marriage today. Romance is the solution to keeping your marriage happy. Solomon had great wisdom and we should pay attention what he has to say.

1. Communicate with talk

See Song of Solomon 1:15; 4:7. Solomon is telling his love what he thinks about her. It is positive and genuine. It is tough for men to talk often with their wives. We need to express how we feel at the right time. We need to be careful what we say. See Song of Solomon 1:15. It is not that men don’t want to talk. It is the subject matter that can make them quiet. The wife needs to encourage her husband. Don’t let him hear it from other women. This is how marriages can break up. Men have to do a better job of listening. Women need to do better at getting to the point! If you can’t talk, then your marriage will fail. Use your head and think, before you open your mouth.

2. Communicate with time

See Song of Solomon 2:10. Married couples need to spend time together. Love requires time. You put your time into what is important. You need intimacy that is soul to soul, not body to body. You need to spend time away together. What is wrong with a weekly date? You could do something that you both like. It could be for lunch, exercise or walking. You could be married for years and not get time away together. See Songs of Solomon 7:11. It is not about shopping, it is about the company. The women could learn to watch sport. Hang out together. It doesn’t have to cost money to be together.

3. Communicate with touch

See Song of Solomon 8:3. There needs to be non-sensual touching. We need to show affection for our partner. One of the first things to go in a relationship which has become sour is touching. It is important in a relationship to hold hands and communicate with our touch.

4. Communicate with thoughtfulness

See Song of Solomon 7:10-12. It is important to find creative ways to express our love. It is good to surprise one another. It could be a little note, flowers, a gift or a surprise birthday party. What is wrong with being thoughtful? These are the little things that make the romance. It doesn’t take big things to excite a woman. A woman wants to hugged, held and heard. If you do these things, then the home can be heaven. If you don’t, the home can be hell! When you get married – invite Jesus to the wedding. We need intensity in our marriage. We need this complete love.

• It puts Christ first.
• It helps you overcome your weaknesses. We all have weaknesses.
• It will meet the deepest needs in a person’s heart.
• It is a love that has passion! The flame has gone out for some people. You can set it alight again.
• It will look for the positive qualities. It looks the good.
• It will lift up your self-esteem. You will feel good about yourself.
• It will tackle adversity together. We all have problems, whether we get married or not. We need to fight together to overcome. You don’t need to tell your parents! You deal with it together.

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