There is no point trying to build a Christian home if you are not looking at the blueprints of the designer. See God’s perfectly designed original instructions. Too many foundations are built on rubbish rather than a rock. See Matthew 7:24. God hates divorce.

1 – The God designed plan for marriage

See Matthew 19:1ff. God is against the idea of unisex. It is she and him not “shem”. All marriage problems come from a misunderstanding of these three words:-

• Leave – The husband and wife bond is to be the closest relationship on this earth. Our job is to let our children find their wings so that they will leave. Children will eventually no longer need us as much as they did when they were young. Do not build the nest too high or they will become rebellious. Teach your children to stand-alone.
• Cleave – The word means to glue or to weld. This speaks of the permanency of marriage. Do not consider divorce as even an option. There is no problem that cannot be resolved by commitment that comes from cleaving.
• Be – To be one flesh. This means more than sex. There is a physical, psychological and spiritual communion that comes from a marriage that is as God intended.

2 – The God designed permanence for marriage

God permitted divorce for only one reason – fornication. Moses permitted but did not command divorce. Fornication is a sexual immorality. Restoration and forgiveness is God’s ideal. (See the marriage of Hosea and Gomer in the Bible). Hosea was willing to forgive and restore the marriage. It is not love that sustains your marriage but it is marriage that sustains you love. Husbands are commanded to love their wives. The older women are to teach the younger woman to love their husbands. There is nothing wrong with romance in a marriage. It is important to keep romance but realise that hard times will come with children, death, etc. It is love not romance that keeps a marriage together. Divorce is not something that is good for your children. It is not your right to be happy all the time. It is important that you remain committed to what you have promised. Marriages are not healed overnight but the direction can be changed overnight.

3 – The God declared pardon for a failed marriage

What about people who have already failed? Your have already remarried. It is no good trying to unscramble an egg. See Romans 8:1; 1 John 1:7 or Isaiah 1:18. God will pardon – go and sin no more. Divorce is wrong but there are two sides. Divorce is a cliff that brings hurt. The church needs to have an ambulance at the bottom for those who have divorced. If you are at fault then make every wrong right that you can. If you are the victim then pray that God will take away any bitterness. If you are thinking of getting a divorce then don’t do it! Build your house upon the rock and it will not fall.

Categories: Genesis